Cherry | system therapist

I offer therapy in

• ✓ Dutch

• ✓ English

Specialisations

• Obstructive patterns (scripts about survival mechanisms)
• Depression
• Self-confidence

• Grief and loss processing
• Problems in the family sphere
• Anxiety disorders

• Burn out or overstrain
• Communication problems
• Conflicts
• Processing in the event of dismissal.

Most common issues I support people with:

1. Obstructive patterns

The starting point for schema-oriented therapy is that certain (early) experiences in combination with a person's character have led to certain schemas or patterns.

A child is extremely sensitive to impressions from the environment. It is not yet able to post or oversee the information it receives. Also, a child cannot choose other circumstances. That makes it dependent on the educators for the care, the views, culture, feelings and behavior. Often these are also repetitions of the parents of the educators. The fear of not surviving arises here. To ensure love and trust, we develop schemes to meet this basic need.

Behavior that caused a safe feeling was repeated, behavior that did not was unlearned. The developed schemes feel familiar. This causes repetition compulsion. It even becomes routine. Experiences are often adapted in such a way that they confirm the correctness of schedules.

As adults, we don't need these schedules so much anymore. In fact, they often hinder us. That is why schemes are also called pitfalls.

Some people surrender to their schedules and find ways to avoid or extinguish the negative consequences they feel as a result. For example, one way to not have to feel anything anymore is to work even harder than you already did. This causes tightness, limitation and conflict with the environment. The dissatisfaction, emptiness and powerlessness that is then felt is projected onto the environment.

Through schema therapy, you can detect, influence and change these schemes and pitfalls. In addition, you will learn to deal better with certain situations in your life. Only when you become aware of the themes and scripted behavior can you change them, let them go and make new decisions.

2. Overstrain

In any life, events, obligations and problems can cause stress and tension. For example, work pressure can suddenly come together with a personal event or another situation, which also requires time and energy from you. With prolonged high pressure, this takes its toll and you will struggle to carry out all your activities satisfactorily. If you do not manage to deal with this tension, you will become overstressed and you will feel that you no longer have a grip on your situation.

Overstrain is accompanied by countless physical and mental symptoms. These complaints can be different for everyone. Poor sleep, fatigue, irritability, headaches, forgetfulness, palpitations, worrying and alcohol consumption. An overall feeling of not being able to cope anymore. Permanent unrest, even in your free time.

In contrast to a burnout, the build-up phase of overstrain is relatively short and the recovery will not take many months as with a burnout. The signal that you are overstressed is a bell of the body to prevent worse. Continuing for a long time while you are overworked can lead to burnout and physical illness.

If you prey on body and mind for too long, overstrain can slowly turn into burnout. It is not very clear at what moment overstrain ends and when burnout begins.

My practice offers several short-term treatments, which focus on recognizing and dealing differently with your sources of stress and guidance in the recovery process.

Fees

75 euro for one consult. This is the minimal fee.

When the consult takes more time the fee will be converted to that time

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